I have to speak my mind about an experience I had on this site. First I do not claim to be an expert and this is only my opinion, but I met a beautiful man here and I mean he was was wonderful, charming a hotty, everything I was looking for. That should have been a sign right there. We talked for weeks, but then he started repeating himself and talking about things we never talked about and it just went downhill from there. I didn't trust him anymore, even though he insisted he was being truthful. Needless to say he was not who he said he was. I am upset when someone wants honesty, and then they lie. Why? Is that necessary? There are some real low down, mean people out there that think nothing of hurting others. All I can do is be true to myself and know that I am not like that and I am still looking for my soul mate. I will find the right man for me. I deserve that. I will not let people like that stop me, there may be others, but please, give me a break. I don't know if the next time I'd do the same thing, but I know if I say I'm honest, I am. I may not tell you everything, but the things I say will be the truth. So over all I do like this site, I like variety and somewhere out there my man is waiting for me. I will be true to myself, and right person will come to me. Lisacapegirl
I have to speak my mind about an experience I had on this site. First I do not claim to be an expert and this is only my opinion, but I met a beautiful man here and I mean he was was wonderful, charming a hotty, everything I was looking for. That should have been a sign right there. We talked for weeks, but then he started repeating himself and talking about things we never talked about and it just went downhill from there. I didn't trust him anymore, even though he insisted he was being truthful. Needless to say he was not who he said he was. I am upset when someone wants honesty, and then they lie. Why? Is that necessary? There are some real low down, mean people out there that think nothing of hurting others. All I can do is be true to myself and know that I am not like that and I am still looking for my soul mate. I will find the right man for me. I deserve that. I will not let people like that stop me, there may be others, but please, give me a break. I don't know if the next time I'd do the same thing, but I know if I say I'm honest, I am. I may not tell you everything, but the things I say will be the truth. So over all I do like this site, I like variety and somewhere out there my man is waiting for me. I will be true to myself, and right person will come to me. Lisacapegirl
Listen for lapses in honesty, use your instincts, watch for signs of evasivness, pretty much what you would do in any singles environment. The good part is you will communicate over a longer period of time IN WRITING, save e-mails so you can compare what he's saying now vs. earlier......
Listen for lapses in honesty, use your instincts, watch for signs of evasivness, pretty much what you would do in any singles environment. The good part is you will communicate over a longer period of time IN WRITING, save e-mails so you can compare what he's saying now vs. earlier......
Listen Ladies, Gentlemen too, I am very interested in meeting the right guy, and I guess you have to weed out the ones who are here for some other reason. Its not too different than the bar scene. Since my first message I have talked to 3 more guys, who are contractors of some kind, from some other country and is currently working in west africa. I'm seeing a pattern here. If you get this story,run! Guys, I'm sure you are getting some baloney story too. There are some men out there that are so desperate for love for what ever reason, they are easy to manipulate, I feel bad for them. My man is out there I know it. He is waiting for me, we will be together. On a good note, I have met 2 great guys that I talk to a lot, but they are not available. We have become friends and they know me pretty well and we talk about our situations, but that's all it can be. I guess that's a success story. I wouldn't have met them other wise. I would really like to talk to someone who is getting what they came here for. Or I'm I wasting my time and money. Lisacapegirl
Listen Ladies, Gentlemen too, I am very interested in meeting the right guy, and I guess you have to weed out the ones who are here for some other reason. Its not too different than the bar scene. Since my first message I have talked to 3 more guys, who are contractors of some kind, from some other country and is currently working in west africa. I'm seeing a pattern here. If you get this story,run! Guys, I'm sure you are getting some baloney story too. There are some men out there that are so desperate for love for what ever reason, they are easy to manipulate, I feel bad for them. My man is out there I know it. He is waiting for me, we will be together. On a good note, I have met 2 great guys that I talk to a lot, but they are not available. We have become friends and they know me pretty well and we talk about our situations, but that's all it can be. I guess that's a success story. I wouldn't have met them other wise. I would really like to talk to someone who is getting what they came here for. Or I'm I wasting my time and money. Lisacapegirl
I'm with you Lisacapegirl...you can never be to sure about people in general; online or otherwise. They tend to tell you what you want to here to get you to trust them. I'm trying this site out with hopes of meeting someone who doesn't view dating black women as a chemistry project...lol if you know what I mean.
I'm with you Lisacapegirl...you can never be to sure about people in general; online or otherwise. They tend to tell you what you want to here to get you to trust them. I'm trying this site out with hopes of meeting someone who doesn't view dating black women as a chemistry project...lol if you know what I mean.
Wow. I just started dating again, and the first guy I go out with imust have been the same guy you're talking about. I can't tell you how many times I caught him in little white lies. I hated making a big deal out of a LITTLE lie that I didn't follow my gut and get out sooner. It's nice to know I'm not the only one this has happened to, but after reading Bernardo's post, I'm wondering if this is all just a waste of time. :-(
Wow. I just started dating again, and the first guy I go out with imust have been the same guy you're talking about. I can't tell you how many times I caught him in little white lies. I hated making a big deal out of a LITTLE lie that I didn't follow my gut and get out sooner. It's nice to know I'm not the only one this has happened to, but after reading Bernardo's post, I'm wondering if this is all just a waste of time. :-(
You are ONLINE and Internet. I cant tell you how many times ive had the same thing. They say one thing in the profile then turn out tobe another. Dont give up. There are truthful faithful loyal guys out there. Im one of them. Its just we are the needle in the hay stack.
You are ONLINE and Internet. I cant tell you how many times ive had the same thing. They say one thing in the profile then turn out tobe another. Dont give up. There are truthful faithful loyal guys out there. Im one of them. Its just we are the needle in the hay stack.
Hey Bernardo2005, Thanks for the support. I was ready to give up too, but then I thought. I can't let this person get to me. I know there is nothing like being in love. There is someone out there for you and for me, I know who I am and what I want. I have a lot to give and I am ready to recieve with the right person. That keeps me going lisacapegirl
Hey Bernardo2005, Thanks for the support. I was ready to give up too, but then I thought. I can't let this person get to me. I know there is nothing like being in love. There is someone out there for you and for me, I know who I am and what I want. I have a lot to give and I am ready to recieve with the right person. That keeps me going lisacapegirl
I would like to chime in on this little problem you are having, now I am far from being a love expert but I couldn't help but to read your blog about this little epidemic, and your experience with dealing with these kinds of people are so similar to what I use to go through on daily basis, whenever I meet some one who I think is an intellegent and down to earth person "BAM" I get hit in the face with something I should have known all along.
The point I am trying to make is you are not the only one who's had a bad experience with those who pretend to be one thing and find out something else..., that they are fakes,pretenders, and wanna-be's, I've experience these things with SOME of the women either on this site or in the real world that it is unreal, they say they want a good honest relationships and list all these "requirements" of their ideal mate and my favorite...,? NO PLAYAS ! they start off so nice and want get to know more about you and when you actually tell something truthful about yourself that's when everything goes downhill and see that particular person for what they really are.., A LIAR, CHEAT, AND EVEN A PLAYA themselves.
Like I said I've been through this so many times that one day I finally thrown in the towell and just gave up, because what was the point ? they already made there choice the second I was approached, I was never, a thug, cheat, playa, woman beater, etc. just an averge young man who works for a living and tries to keep himself up on daily basis, btu sometimes that's not always good enough.
I'm sorry you had a bad experience with someone whom you could've had a future with but I just want to let you know that you are not alone in this quest for true love [though I've long since given up] good luck with your search.
Bernardo2005
Hello "Ms. Lisacaegirl,"
I would like to chime in on this little problem you are having, now I am far from being a love expert but I couldn't help but to read your blog about this little epidemic, and your experience with dealing with these kinds of people are so similar to what I use to go through on daily basis, whenever I meet some one who I think is an intellegent and down to earth person "BAM" I get hit in the face with something I should have known all along.
The point I am trying to make is you are not the only one who's had a bad experience with those who pretend to be one thing and find out something else..., that they are fakes,pretenders, and wanna-be's, I've experience these things with SOME of the women either on this site or in the real world that it is unreal, they say they want a good honest relationships and list all these "requirements" of their ideal mate and my favorite...,? NO PLAYAS ! they start off so nice and want get to know more about you and when you actually tell something truthful about yourself that's when everything goes downhill and see that particular person for what they really are.., A LIAR, CHEAT, AND EVEN A PLAYA themselves.
Like I said I've been through this so many times that one day I finally thrown in the towell and just gave up, because what was the point ? they already made there choice the second I was approached, I was never, a thug, cheat, playa, woman beater, etc. just an averge young man who works for a living and tries to keep himself up on daily basis, btu sometimes that's not always good enough.
I'm sorry you had a bad experience with someone whom you could've had a future with but I just want to let you know that you are not alone in this quest for true love [though I've long since given up] good luck with your search.
